‘I have never seen her this jealous’, my friend pointed out about me in our Whatsapp friends group. As much as I have denied to relate with that side of me, I think I have grown to become jealous and insecure (when in a relationship) over the last few years and I wonder why?
Is it just me who feels the need to protect the one I love from the world? Or is it that I am too damaged from the realization that no man (that I have been with) has ever really felt to fight for me. Rather, make an effort to keep me in his life.
From my first serious relationship (that almost ended up in marriage), I realized that money and a job was of much higher priority to him and the second one taught me that long-distance can work when you are willing to be in an open relationship because when you are not physically available, you are mentally exhausting.
After my last relationship ended almost three years ago, I have been single until recently. In the last couple of years, I was beginning to feel that a marriage or a relationship isn’t for me because I had gotten too comfortable with my freedom and loneliness. Not something I had imagined how my life would turn out when I was 21. I felt like I was flying, but I was only becoming more and more mechanical. I didn’t feel grounded because there wasn’t anyone to make me feel that way.
A relationship keeps me grounded, sane and more human as I would like to call it. My life tends to revolve around it. And only because I have only seen all of mine end, my instincts to nurture and protect it has only become stronger over time.